Special Cunnilingus Techniques and Secrets

Special Cunnilingus Techniques and Secrets

The best part of sex, in my far-from-humble opinion, is the pleasure you can cause in your partner(s).

While being stimulated by your partner is certainly far better (for most people, if their partner's any good at

it) than masturbation, it is still pretty much the same, only better.

Going down on a lover, on the other hand, allows you to get a kind of pleasure that you cannot give yourself, even

in part; the vicarious or empathic response you get from their reactions.

The techniques here, therefore, are centered around cunnilingus, including (since there's no separate name) using

your fingers. Along a similar line I've now written Advanced Fellatio Techniques and Secrets. This was learned

as a subject, not performer, but with the same quality of skill involved. Because of the number of questions I

received on the subject, I also have Advanced Anal Sex Techniques, for those who want to know about that.

Basic Guidelines:

"Less" is always the best way to start out if you don't know exactly what a specific person likes. It's

much safer to build up from "not enough" than to try to back down after shattering the mood by being too

rough. The final argument to ensure that you always apply this rule is this -- If you start out "too"

gentle/slowly, in most cases this just excites your lover more, even in the rare cases that it frustrates her

a little. But if you start out "too" rough for her, it almost always turns her off to the whole thing.

The differences between women cannot be emphasized enough -- no matter what you have

encountered so far, always assume that you have no idea what a new partner enjoys. It is entirely

possible to have had many lovers, and think

They are all pretty much the same or

You've learned all of the variations, and can tell who's what.

But this can be (and usually is) just a matter of random chance...you happened to get several similar lovers.

Eventually you will run into someone, or many people, who are completely different than those you've

known before.

Don't start by going down on her. Work your way up to it. Exceptions may be if you're in a hurry

before your Press Secretary shows up, or other situations where you're expected to act more directly.

It's worth observing that "work your way up to it" remains true no matter how many times you've been

with that lover. With a long-term lover it may seem like you can get right to the direct stuff, but working

your way up still has the same effect of increasing her excitement, with most women.

Along the same line of reasoning, don't start licking her clitoris immediately, when you do get there.

Start with the area around it, which can be pretty sensitive with some women, even if it doesn't seem to

cause the same dramatic response.

Even more important is to not immediately start inserting fingers in her vagina. With most women, that

really needs to be built up, first. It usually doesn't hurt to build up a little, even if she's already excited.

Remember this -- Most often, the tongue works best with the clitoris, the fingers with the vagina/g-spot.

Someone else's fingers on her clitoris tends to be a little rough, no matter how careful they are...and

almost all of the excitement she gets from attempting to lick into her vagina is psychological; she can't

really feel much that way.

Hand Care It's best to be sure your fingernail edges are very smooth, and preferably cut all the way

down to where they connect to your skin. No matter how careful you are, they are likely to cause her to

get a little sore inside, or even really hurt, feeling like a knife cutting her. This can even be the cause of

soreness that she doesn't realize is being caused by your nails. Being a guitarist, I have the nails on my

left hand trimmed back as far as I can cut them, anyway. Guitar also gives one's fret-hand amazing

endurance and finesse, for g-spot stimulation and other tricks.

Dental Dams These are, in most cases, just plain silly. Unlike almost any other form of sexual activity,

the odds of you transmitting or catching AIDS this way are almost zero. There are almost no cases of any

female homosexuals, for instance, even /claiming/ to have caught AIDS this way. In case you're wondering